“Sex is the only ingredient for every relationship.”
That was the only orientation I grew up hearing about sex — and I believed it.
When a child is raised in an environment that teaches only this mindset, they grow up living it, most times, it's not their fault.
And sadly, I’ve met many people in church who obey almost every other commandment of God, yet confidently say they cannot remove sex from their relationship.
Some will even insist, “I can’t marry someone without testing them first.” They call it “being careful,” but God calls it fornication — and it has consequences no one truly wants to face.
Sex before marriage is not fun; it is fornication. It damages trust, clouds judgment, and makes it harder to be faithful later.
When you keep “testing” each other, don’t be surprised when commitment becomes a struggle in marriage.
Many people believe there is nothing left in a relationship once sex is removed. But that is a lie.
There is so much more to enjoy, build, and discover without sex.
Sex and heavy romantic activity can blind you. It keeps you from seeing who your partner truly is. It hides red flags. It traps you emotionally, making it harder to leave even when God is telling you to walk away.
A relationship is supposed to prepare you for marriage — a time to build a foundation, understand compatibility, and make wise decisions.
And you need a clear mind to do that.
When sex isn’t involved, it’s easier to let go of the wrong person because you didn’t tie your soul to them through physical intimacy.
The Bible clearly warns that those who live in sexual immorality endanger their souls and would spend eternity in Hell. That is not something to take lightly.
Maybe you started your relationship the right way but fell into sexual sin along the line.
Maybe now it feels like you can’t stop. If so, seek God. Take a break if necessary, fix your spiritual life, and return only when you’re strong enough to honor Him.
But if you continue practicing sexual immorality, especially with multiple partners, and feel no conviction at all… then you must ask yourself if you are truly born again.
Because the Bible says a genuinely born-again person does not make sin their lifestyle. God’s nature inside you should push you to please Him, not rebel against Him.
The good news?
It’s not too late to repent.
God is ready to forgive you. His grace is strong enough to help you wait until marriage.
People are waiting. I am waiting. You can wait too. If you truly love your partner, waiting is not a burden — it’s protection.
A partner who really loves you will not pressure or threaten you. They will hold your hand and say, “We will wait together. You are worth it.”
The devil wants you to believe waiting is impossible because he wants to keep you bound in sin.
But the same act he pushes you to chase desperately now is something you will freely enjoy in marriage without guilt or shame and something you may even feel tired of doing because you're stressed out.
Don’t trade obedience to God for a moment of pleasure. Don’t trade temporary excitement for eternal pain.
Choose God. Choose purity. Choose a future you won’t regret.
Thank you.
“Sex is the only ingredient for every relationship.”
That was the only orientation I grew up hearing about sex — and I believed it.
When a child is raised in an environment that teaches only this mindset, they grow up living it, most times, it's not their fault.
And sadly, I’ve met many people in church who obey almost every other commandment of God, yet confidently say they cannot remove sex from their relationship.
Some will even insist, “I can’t marry someone without testing them first.” They call it “being careful,” but God calls it fornication — and it has consequences no one truly wants to face.
Sex before marriage is not fun; it is fornication. It damages trust, clouds judgment, and makes it harder to be faithful later.
When you keep “testing” each other, don’t be surprised when commitment becomes a struggle in marriage.
Many people believe there is nothing left in a relationship once sex is removed. But that is a lie.
There is so much more to enjoy, build, and discover without sex.
Sex and heavy romantic activity can blind you. It keeps you from seeing who your partner truly is. It hides red flags. It traps you emotionally, making it harder to leave even when God is telling you to walk away.
A relationship is supposed to prepare you for marriage — a time to build a foundation, understand compatibility, and make wise decisions.
And you need a clear mind to do that.
When sex isn’t involved, it’s easier to let go of the wrong person because you didn’t tie your soul to them through physical intimacy.
The Bible clearly warns that those who live in sexual immorality endanger their souls and would spend eternity in Hell. That is not something to take lightly.
Maybe you started your relationship the right way but fell into sexual sin along the line.
Maybe now it feels like you can’t stop. If so, seek God. Take a break if necessary, fix your spiritual life, and return only when you’re strong enough to honor Him.
But if you continue practicing sexual immorality, especially with multiple partners, and feel no conviction at all… then you must ask yourself if you are truly born again.
Because the Bible says a genuinely born-again person does not make sin their lifestyle. God’s nature inside you should push you to please Him, not rebel against Him.
The good news?
It’s not too late to repent.
God is ready to forgive you. His grace is strong enough to help you wait until marriage.
People are waiting. I am waiting. You can wait too. If you truly love your partner, waiting is not a burden — it’s protection.
A partner who really loves you will not pressure or threaten you. They will hold your hand and say, “We will wait together. You are worth it.”
The devil wants you to believe waiting is impossible because he wants to keep you bound in sin.
But the same act he pushes you to chase desperately now is something you will freely enjoy in marriage without guilt or shame and something you may even feel tired of doing because you're stressed out.
Don’t trade obedience to God for a moment of pleasure. Don’t trade temporary excitement for eternal pain.
Choose God. Choose purity. Choose a future you won’t regret.
Thank you.
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